This is a great thread and highlights a number of important aspects of hifi, as well as the big challenge we face in the UK, which is hearing a wide enough range of comparable stuff in a suitable environment, ideally your home.
As some have highlighted, the importance of the room, speakers, musical preferences, and ultimately personal taste, make the journey of putting together a system that satisfies over the long-term really tough and wrought with not-inconsiderable financial downsides to getting it wrong. I sold my Naim stuff at the start of 2017 and still haven't completed my replacement system.
As I noted above, the biggest challenge is hearing enough kit - many retailers will only stock one or two products at a certain price-point making it very difficult to compare apples to apples across a wide range of makes. Add to that system synergies and it becomes a minefield. Even if you are lucky enough to find a dealer with a wider choice, chances are that the choice is driven by their own tastes or their ties to certain distributors, so may not match yours.
Home demos can also be difficult - whilst I understand that this requires significant effort on behalf of the dealer, some make the assumption that a home demo = sale. I had one particularly challenging instance where a distributor was extremely rude to my wife.
As a note on Constellation / Soulution etc being comparators to Vitus price-wise, many of these brands have introduced ranges with lower price points (albeit still pretty pricey) which might offer a good comparison.
To the point on speed - agreed outright it can become edgy, but think this is where system synergy comes in. I use a valved DAC into the Bernings which I suspect makes a big difference in the overall balance of the presentation.