20d SE 5d gets a lot more you pay a bit more, I keep reading the brochure looking for the sweet spot 16d was too entry level but the more I read the more I want to get.
Wait. Wait a second.
After all you've been through, don't you
deserve a little something extra ?
I'll restrict myself to strongly recomending the auto-transmission. I hate auto transmissions, but the 8speed box is a big leap forward. Apart from the changes being super smooth, because it can choose between 8 ratios, the engine can operate at its optimum speed/load point.
It is particularly good when combined with a smaller, less powerfull engine.
My previous car had the 2.0D + 8sp Auto and was exceptionally good. I currently have an older model of the 318d + 6sp Auto which is not nearly as good.
Sat Nav is usefull for making re-sale easier. I generally use a portable.
I still don't understand the point of roof bars. My Tourings have all had them, but you still have to bolt the rack either to them, or to the roof mounting points.
Tinted glass for the rear windows is v.usefull for keeping the sun off the dogs.
Runflats are completely ok in my experience, and prevent you getting killed on the motorway hard shoulder.
Xenons didn't do too much for me, for some people they are a must have.
It has to be said, BMWs don't compare well with front-wheel drive competitors in terms of interior space.
I tried an x1 and thought it was pretty good, except for the ride quality in the rear seat, which was jittery.