This is not a joke.
My dear sister Pam passed away this morning at 11:30 after a long and astoundingly brave battle against COPD (Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disorder.) She was 64.
We all (especially Pam) knew this was coming but we obviously didn't know when and even an 'expected' death comes as a shock, so you will not be surprised to hear that I am feeling all the normal emotions. Otherwise, not much I can do but try to support others by phone until I go to Nottm.for the funeral.
The odd thing, and what prompted me to write this post (apart from my self acknowledged tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve) is that not much more than 12 hours after losing my own sister, I can laugh at some of the gags in this thread.
( Mick. 'I'm not bothered' Everybody else. 'Neither are we!' He feeds these lines on purpose for our entertainment. I just know it.)
Another thing is that Pam never expressed any regrets to me about anything, despite having a hard life, often battling illness.
It was only on Tuesday of this week that Pam, with the help of my lovely , but sometimes scatty niece, arranged and paid for her own funeral. She had spoken to me about it the previous week and I had said, I didn't think she needed to get bogged down in that stuff, but if it it gave her peace of mind, why not?
The thing is, my niece then came home and promptly posted on Facebook. 'Well, today I sorted my Mum's funeral out.' She then had to rapidly and red facedly backtrack as a flood of premature sympathy messages came in.
Sadly, today she had to post her message again. For real.
I'm convinced that Pam either knew her time was up, or was just tired of the fight. So, in a way, she went on her own terms, at a time of her choosing.
I allowed myself a bit of self admonition earlier today, beating myself up for not calling her since a week ago. I then reminded myself that we've spoken more in the last few years than we did in the previous 40, because we lived 100 miles apart, had our own lives and in lifestyle terms had little in common. Still, she was my loyal and thoughtful big sis and I will miss her.
I don't believe in the after life, but if I'm wrong, she will be looking down, giggling at my niece's Facebook 'gaff' and watching to see if my brother in law, according to her wishes, wears a suit for the second time in his life. She's OK now.
Please take this post for what it is and please don't clog the thread with a stream of sympathy messages. I already know that beyond the bullshit, fishies all have hearts.
Mull
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