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Ever lost your interest in music? (e.g. post kids)

Discussion in 'audio' started by Neil P, Dec 7, 2021.

  1. Barbapapa

    Barbapapa pfm Member

    Like most of the others, I've had a slump when the children were younger. You want to be able to hear when they cry, and do not have the spare time to listen at leisure (besides being tired all the time). Now they are older I've rekindled my love of music, partly as background when working or reading, but I always listened in that way. For me it wasn't a loss of love for music, just temporarily not having the time or opportunity for it. But apparently it is different for others.
  2. calorgas

    calorgas Ratty bumpkin

    I had a boom in music listening when my kids were very young! I found it helped in various ways, not least having something to jiggle along to when trying to get a grizzly baby to sleep :)
    My two kids always seemed to like music and were very expressive dancers when they were toddlers :D. What they were exposed to then seems to have had an impact on what they listen to now, which is nice.

    Nowadays I listen to radio quite a lot as I prefer the variety and also not having to choose what to listen to myself. Plus it can introduce me to some new stuff which I probably wouldn't otherwise hear. I think this helps keep me interested.
    Fretbuzz likes this.
  3. gustav_errata

    gustav_errata pfm Member

    I am not a psychologist but maybe do some self-reflection to determine whether you might be burnt out or depressed. Interest in things and general motivation are some of the first things to go.

    Regardless, there might be some catharsis in selling unused gear, simplifying your audio setup, and taking a sort of "back to basics" approach. I.e., return to just listening to music for enjoyment and nevermind hi-fi for a while.

    I'm 39, I am officially burnt out from work, we just had our second kid, our 4 year old is going out of his way to challenge us, and my music listening has not waned at all, ever. Other hobbies ebb and flow, but I don't consider music enjoyment to be a hobby but rather a fixed reference of enjoyment in my life. Everyone is probably different though.
  4. mcleanmuir

    mcleanmuir pfm Member

    I did not use my system for 8 years, it was all still plugged in during that period. It was in a loft room and did not use it till I moved house. Nothing to do with kids, just lost interest. Thing was I was surrounded by music, the reason being I had an import CD and vinyl company at the time.
  5. Andy1912

    Andy1912 pfm Member

    I go through times when I get bored with the same old music but it generally doesn't last too long. I do think it is harder these days to keep up with new music and youtube, spotify and so on have algorithms that try to encourage you to listen to similar stuff ad infinitum. I do think a decent quality hifi helps - listening to great musicianship on a well produced album is really something special, for me at least....
  6. Tony Lockhart

    Tony Lockhart Avoiding Stress, at Every Opportunity

    I think I’ve played about five CDs on my system in the last year. My wife won’t let me sell it all, even though she doesn’t use it.

    I know I’ll get back into it at some point, but as I’m never, and I mean never, in the house on my own, I struggle to summon up the enthusiasm to play anything.
    Neil P likes this.
  7. guydarryl

    guydarryl pfm Member

    Quite similar here. Two daughters; I listened occasionally while they were growing up but never seriously considered selling my system (or my records -good lord, that is part of my youth/history :))

    Very glad that I still have it all (and new power amp); lockdowns, retirement, eldest daughter has left home to start a family, youngest away in Brighton at uni' and here I am "rediscovering" my record collection - amazing how some records that I just thought were ok now enthral me.
    Darren L and Neil P like this.
  8. Yank

    Yank Bulbous Also Tapered

    When I worked in live music, I went through long periods where the last thing I wanted to do on my own time was to listen to more music.
    Jimin likes this.
  9. Zombie

    Zombie pfm Member

    We listened together in the sofa, sometimes the rabbit joined us. It used to listen attentively to solos.
  10. gordon

    gordon self-righteous, but never right

    My interest has been pretty steady. Any ebb and flow is mostly due to what's being released in any given year.
    darrenyeats likes this.
  11. Tony Lockhart

    Tony Lockhart Avoiding Stress, at Every Opportunity

    I was probably thinking about a different sort of rabbit.
  12. Neil P

    Neil P pfm Member

    just spat my tea out
    Tony Lockhart likes this.
  13. Big Tabs

    Big Tabs looking backwards, going forwards

    I used to listen a lot, kids or not.

    Now I listen even more.
    35 hours a week minimum at a guess.
  14. hifinutt

    hifinutt hifinutt

    that lovely sacd player needs to find a new home !! :)
  15. sktn77a

    sktn77a pfm Member

    Same thing happened to me. Three kids, three moves, busier than h_ll at work. It started for me about 30 years ago when we moved into a house with awful acoustics. I still listen to music, but not on my high end system so much. My discrimination abilities have definitely declined, maybe that's why(?)
    hifinutt likes this.
  16. hifinutt

    hifinutt hifinutt

    LOVE your avatar though !! we love shaun the sheep here !! :)
  17. Tony L

    Tony L Administrator

    I was without a hi-fi for a years or two when I started IT contracting in That London, but I made do with a portable CD player and gigs. I didn’t stop buying. That aside, never, though I’ve fairly actively avoided the conventional things people do with their lives (families, kids etc). I like my space too much. Music has been the constant. Always there. Always something new to explore. I can’t imagine life without it.
    Paul Mc likes this.
  18. Joe Hutch

    Joe Hutch Mate of the bloke

    That reminds me that I had a portable CD player back in the early ‘90s when I did a lot of work-related travelling around UK universities. Until some bastard stole it from me on the London to Edinburgh sleeper.
  19. Tony L

    Tony L Administrator

    Still got mine, and somewhat amazingly it still works! I remember buying it from one of the many electronics shops on on Tottenham Court Rd.
  20. sonddek

    sonddek Trade: SUPATRAC

    Music??? I'm just here for the box-swapping.

    Seriously though, I did more or less lose interest for a while. Days or weeks could go by without me putting a record on. It turned out that I hadn't realised that I didn't really like my turntable. That's all solved now, in spadesful.
    darrenyeats likes this.

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