Anyone disowned a parent?
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htm_1968
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The authors of the handful of extremely unpleasant posts in this thread could do well to disown themselves.
GruntPuppy
pfm Member
I would like to disown my father, but it would upset my mother. He has been told that he'd better die first, or he's going to die lonely though.
Joe Hutch
Mate of the bloke
I doubt anyone would admit to it, if so. [Disclaimer: we get on very well with our two, and always have done once the elder was past the 'difficult teenager' phase].
Del monaco
Del Monaco
I’m surprised at the haunting and candid nature of some of the posts. Just shows you can’t take kind parenting for granted.
NeilR
pfm Member
I am sure this post is well meant, but sometimes such appalling things have happened and some people are so toxic, that to do this simply causes more pain and misery. Sometimes, enough is enough.
GruntPuppy
pfm Member
Dammit, my father won't disown me.
Big Tabs
looking backwards, going forwards
Just now and again there is some straight talking on pfm.
It is one of the better features.
Exactly this. You don’t disown a parent for just forgetting your birthday.
Big Tabs
looking backwards, going forwards
My brother disowned his/my father because his/my father said that my brother's unborn son would be a bast*rd unless he got married to his partner. (brother and girlfriend were unmarried at the time) My dad has a massive hang up about bastard in the old-fashioned sense, as he was born as one.
It was an argument that I wasn't witness to.
My brother disowned my parents and changed his surname.
Not seen him since. Probably 25 yrs?
I didn't see it coming.
Families eh?
That’s pretty extreme, I can understand your brother falling out with his father but losing touch with you seems wrong.
MikeMA
pfm Member
Although we all rubbed along ok, my family was never really into sending cards to each other until the year I forgot my mother's 70th birthday. My dad got really grumpy and I had to go and get a last minute card and flowers. The funny thing is since my dad died my mum hardly ever remembers my birthday. I won't be disowning her even though she voted for Brexit as she's got far too much money and I'm her sole beneficiary.
Joe Hutch
Mate of the bloke
I never could get the date of my father's birthday into my head. Fortunately, I always guessed it was a day earlier than it actually was, so the card was never late! My family forgot my birthday one year (when I was 23 and had long since left home). They had a lot on their collective plates at the time, so it was understandable but I was quite upset.
Big Tabs
looking backwards, going forwards
I thought it was extreme as well. And showed a lack of understanding from both sides. I can understand the social stigma that was associated with that term, in those times. Different times - again.
oldius
Manchester City, dogs, family and food.
I find the 'judgments' in the thread rather misplaced.
Your relationship with your family is your own personal business; nobody outside the relationship is in a position to judge the relationship or the feelings that emerge from it.
Some families simply contain individuals who do not treat other people well. Others contain levels of toxicity that affect the mental health of individuals within. In those circumstances, it is absolutely better to walk away and nobody else can judge your choice.
My relationship with my family is a close one but I have agreed with my father that we no longer discuss politics: our views are so disparate and no amount of asking him to simply listen will dissuade him from Trump being his hero, send the army in or torture the bastards; the latter being whoever does not toe the line of planet middle-England. He simply rants socialist over the conversation so, to stop destroying our relationship, I said that I wasn't able to discuss it with him as our views are too polarised; it's been better since.
Your relationship with your family is your own personal business; nobody outside the relationship is in a position to judge the relationship or the feelings that emerge from it.
Some families simply contain individuals who do not treat other people well. Others contain levels of toxicity that affect the mental health of individuals within. In those circumstances, it is absolutely better to walk away and nobody else can judge your choice.
My relationship with my family is a close one but I have agreed with my father that we no longer discuss politics: our views are so disparate and no amount of asking him to simply listen will dissuade him from Trump being his hero, send the army in or torture the bastards; the latter being whoever does not toe the line of planet middle-England. He simply rants socialist over the conversation so, to stop destroying our relationship, I said that I wasn't able to discuss it with him as our views are too polarised; it's been better since.
My / our 'one chance in life' was so, so much enhanced once the decision had been made.
To say 'reach out' and bring all that pain, lies, mental blackmail, backstabbing, and huge noise back into our lives?
Simply - you have NO idea.
I am happy for you that you have no idea - honestly I am.
The mental (and physical) pain before was very nearly un-bearable.
It is actually painful remembering it now and writing this.
It was nigh on 20 years ago, yet still it is there.
gintonic
50 shades of grey pussy cats
nah you r way wrong