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Ever lost your interest in music? (e.g. post kids)

Discussion in 'audio' started by Neil P, Dec 7, 2021.

  1. Neil P

    Neil P pfm Member

    Due to 2 house moves, stuff being in storage, and kids (now 8 and 10) my music habits have dwindled over the last 10 years. I find if I have an hour or two to spare I watch a movie, and I don't actually know when I Iast "listened" to a whole record... 15 years ago? I wonder whether I should just sell the gear, and maybe revisit the hobby when the kids leave home or I retire (15+ years). Has anyone else experienced this? Did they fight it?

    In lockdown I bought a new SACD player (still in its box), a new pair of mono amps (still not opened the boxes they arrived in from another PFMer), a new equipment support (still boxed), various tweaks ... ditto. Oh I also bought (and quickly sold) a pre, a dac and an integrated.
  2. JTC

    JTC PFM Villager...

    I think it's natural for your musical appetites to rise and fall over time. I've gone through periods where I don't listen much, and periods where I listen a lot. Life does cause ebb and flow....
  3. Drumossie

    Drumossie And not or

    No but I regularly lose interest in my kids ;)
  4. Marchbanks

    Marchbanks Hat and Beard member

    The other way round for me. If I have an hour or two to spare I listen to music, and I don’t know when I last turned on the TV. (I do really, it was the beginning of October.)
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  5. Darren L

    Darren L pfm Member

    I never lost my interest in music even when my kids were small (now in their 20's) though there probably was a fair period of time when I didn't have as much time as I liked but this would have been mainly due to working 6 & 7 days a week.
    I can't say I can ever remember wanting to listen to music and having to play with the kids or be involved in some of their activities that I didn't want to be, honesty if I had the time over again I'd spend more time with them.
    About 15 years ago I sold off my system as I wanted the money to build a motorcycle, for a good ten years my interest in hifi was practically non-existent, I still had a fairly decent system and probably bought as many records as the previous 10.
  6. JezmondTutu

    JezmondTutu pfm Member

    Totally agree. I also listen to my hifi far less in the summer, more likely to be outside doing stuff.
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  7. Neil P

    Neil P pfm Member

    I've not owned a TV (or watched live tv / iplayer etc) for decades, but do watch films on blu-ray.
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  8. Woodface

    Woodface pfm Member

    I certainly listened less to the main system when the kids were younger, I am also a regular cyclist so in the summer spend more time out of doors.
  9. Weekender

    Weekender pfm Member

    Yes...there's a can of worms.
  10. Neil P

    Neil P pfm Member

    I do wonder if it's a male ageing thing (I'm 44)... I've lost my interest in many things (but also had a very stressful year for many reasons).
  11. Darren L

    Darren L pfm Member

    Could be, have you gained interest in other things or just too busy getting on with the day to day perhaps?

    As long as you're happy and the stress is not causing depression or anxiety.
  12. wacko

    wacko pfm Member

    Perhaps but you are at least a decade too young for that. I doubt it helps much but 44 should be your prime...
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  13. Joe Hutch

    Joe Hutch Mate of the bloke

    [Tries to think back to 44]. That would be 1998 for me. I had lost interest in music some years previously, and bought very few records in the late '80s/early '90s. Thats when my two were nippers and by the time we'd packed them off to bed, all we wanted to do was zone out in front of some crap TV programmes then stagger off to bed. But by 1998 I was already back into music and have been there ever since. We were without a TV for several years and if we hadn't been offered on for free would probably still not have one.
  14. jamesd

    jamesd pfm Member

    15 years? I sincerely don’t mean this in a rude way: why are you here? What keeps your interest here? It would be like reading football discussion and not watching football.

    I get to listen to music at least 8 hours a day at work and it presents a different problem: deciding what to listen to becomes a challenge and then I feel bored with my options.
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  15. david ellwood

    david ellwood Kirabosi Kognoscente

    If I’m listening to music it’s likely I’m in a good mood.

    If I’m not in a good mood listening to music normally helps.
  16. Bas V

    Bas V pfm Member

    Says who? All of your body functions detoriate after 40, so I doubt this is true. Ask any athlete...
  17. djftw

    djftw Heterodox Member

    It happens sometimes for a period, but my attention is like that on most things - I am either compleatly immersed or totally disinterested and there isn't really any middle ground. Some of my younger friends who are into self-diagnosing such things think I have ADHD! They might be right, but I don't really care... Psychology was another of those things I was intensely interested in for long enough to get an A-level and about half the credits needed for a BSc, before suddenly realising I thought it was mostly nonsense and quite dull, and changing my degree...
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  18. ryder

    ryder pfm Member

    Same here. It's always music first for me. Movies 2nd. As a matter of fact I don't really watch much movies.
  19. say it as it is

    say it as it is pfm Member

    I go through phases as well not been listening much but that more due to being ill. Find myself watching crap TV.
    Will come back to it though as always seem to eventually
  20. Neil P

    Neil P pfm Member

    good point! therapy? (in)sanity? :)
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