Listening at domestically acceptable levels [bearing in mind that neighbours may not share the same taste in music] means that many of us have to choose replay that is really good at lower levels than you might expect in a live setting.
It does seem to be the case that most really impressive "loud" speakers are far from easy when playing quietly. It also seems that most "quiet" speakers don't go well playing at higher volume settings. For example a Naim SBL has a minimum volume setting where it seems to dissolve into sounding like a small kitchen radio, with no tone or warmth of timbre at all, whereas [in my case] a single mono ESL [57] really is never going to emulate a rock gig well. It does go loud enough to simulate the sound pressures encountered in a live classical concert provided that you compare it with sitting half way back, which is the ideal place for a good balance and blend in any case.
When I want to listen really quietly with my ESL, I simply get closer to the speaker, and this get a magical effect - almost like listening with headphones, but without the horrible inside the head effect that is normal with headphones; at least for people who have never adapted to headphone listening ...
I have always enjoyed listening quietly, so have never developed a taste for really big sounding loudspeakers, but the ESL scales quite amazingly even if playing quietly. The sense of scale is more a question of a sense of space and distance rather than floor shaking bass. The bass remains lucid and articulate without having to let the neighbours share it whether they want to or not. Really just like a huge headphone, while retaining the detail in proportion to the timbre and scale of the performance. I could never return to conventional speakers now, though I have heard some good ones. Not least some Falcon BBC Monitor types that I found remarkably integrated and clear.
I shall soon have a pair of Wharfdale speakers [no idea what] over the next few weeks, fed from a vintage TT and unknown amps, all equipment from the 1950s to 1970s, along with a huge classical LP collection from the same era. I have no idea what condition or quality this might all be, but I am preventing it going to landfill, so although it might only be an experiment [and to wallow in some old school nostalgia], I expect it will be fun. It might end up as a second system to run beside my ESL that is currently only set up for VHF/FM Radio Three.
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I do think that expensive replay tends to have become less easy for domestic use these days as it tries to emulate the sound pressure levels of concert giving, and particularly rock and pop.
Jim pointed out the use of optimod on VHF/FM, and I completely welcome the subtle reduction of dynamic range it brings. Most of us have ambient noise levels in our homes that are much worse than proper concert venues, so having [in effect] the quietest passages boosted a bit is both practical and helpful in home listening.
Only two pence' worth. Best wishes from George