Hard to beat German for refinement to be honest. I know you don't want VAG but I'd at least consider a Skoda, you really do get a lot of car for your money. Or check out BMW, fantastic cars in every department IMHO although you might find an SE model preferable over an M Sport model of anything you look at, SE models have softer suspension than M Sport models.
Skoda are part of VAG (but I guess that's obvious).
A (s/h?) BM 3 series might well be worth a look?
Some M-Sports have adaptive suspension, which allow selection between firm and comfort. The biggest advantage of M-Sport models the heavily bolstered front seats and thick-rimmed steering wheels. These may be of interest if the OP is interested in spirited driving....you might find an SE model preferable over an M Sport model of anything you look at, SE models have softer suspension than M Sport models.
Some M-Sports have adaptive suspension, which allow selection between firm and comfort. The biggest advantage of M-Sport models the heavily bolstered front seats and thick-rimmed steering wheels. These may be of interest if the OP is interested in spirited driving.
Try a Subaru Outback or Forester with a petrol engine. Great cars, deep engineering and nicely understated. Way better in my experience than the German stuff. 5 year warranty as well, although doubt you'd need to use it.
There should be plenty of current model (F30) BMW 328i with 6MT available in the UK. The lighter four-cylinder engine sedan feels more nimble than the 6-cylinder in the handling department, and isn't much slower either.Lexus is also on the backburner now although finding a manual gearbox petrol car might be a challenge within budget.
Attention has turned to Volvo, used to have a V70 & that was supremely comfortable & a nice vehicle to drive except for the atrocious lock to lock turning circle.
I have no idea what current Volvo cars are like apart from being horrendously expensive to buy.
Lexus is also on the backburner now although finding a manual gearbox petrol car might be a challenge within budget.
The turning circle an my Iveco is amazing, for a van, its also got a cup holder, and I sit very high up, with excellent views of oncoming open mouthed car drivers. jealous? Just buy a white van. Loads of fun, loads of room in the back, £30 an hour, charge your mates, pick up crap from Ikea, garden centre, whatever, it'll pay for itself.It has to be said that the turning circle on my XC60 is not great. But you soon get used to it. Very comfortable as you would expect. Expensive yes if new. But here could be a surprise - log on to www.motorpoint.co.uk and search Volvo cars. Almost new XC60 s going for £20K and up. Worth every penny at that price. Choose your variant. Not driven a manual myself so hard to comment on that.